How do we know that people in our environment are OUR people?
Are the people in our environment truly OUR people?
We surround ourselves with people who play a significant role in our everyday lives.
They could be our life partners, family, friends, colleagues, teammates, classmates, friends from school, people from common social groups, acquittances, neighbors, etc.
They are all these people that we interact with; we listen to, we use our energy and time on.
As humans, we are creatures of packs and do not usually prefer to live fully isolated lives.
The fear of ending up alone or marginalized might influence our judgment on which people we consciously keep in our life.
And we might not allow ourselves the gift of wondering,
Are these people, MY people?
We might not realize how they impact our mental health, life, happiness, and general well-being.
We might believe that since they have been in our life for so long, they must stay longer; they must stay forever, no matter what.
We have been in each other's lives for so long, and it's hard to admit that they are not suitable for us and that their effect on our lives is rather negative than positive.
Taking separate ways is not an easy decision, and we might postpone it repeatedly since, ok, we have survived so far and they are not so bad.
What if we gave ourselves the power of choice - to the extent we can control - about who stays and who leaves from our life?
What if we could affect that mostly the right people - our people - are surrounding us?
Here are some characteristics that distinguish OUR people:
- They give us their time, presence, and attention
- They look into our eyes with love, respect, and warmth
- They appreciate who we are and see our qualities and talents
- They believe us and in us, generously uplifting us
- They are non-judgmental towards us even when we fail
- They advise us by putting aside their own beliefs and fears
- They are sensible not to hurt us or our feelings
- They love us and show it in every opportunity with words and actions
And here are some outcomes of being surrounded by those that are NOT OUR people:
- We feel lonely even when surrounded by a crowd
- We perceive ourselves as outsiders
- We are never fully understood
- We get consumed and drained by their stories
- We only feel deep joy on limited occasions
- We are often questioning what we are doing wrong
- We don't believe in ourselves and our potential
- We miss out on opportunities to meet OUR people
We might not be able to fully moderate with whom we spend each minute of our life, but we can prioritize spending more time with people that get us and that our general well-being matters to them. And minimize our time with all the others.
We owe it to ourselves to be surrounded by those that see us and appreciate us for who we are, that complement us, support us, and love us in a way that honors our uniqueness and talents.
Living our everyday life with our people will contribute highly to our daily happiness, inner peace, and endless flourishing.
Each and every one of us deserves nothing but the best and it's in our hands to equip ourselves with people that are phenomenal, just like us!
Do you wish to distinguish and then be surrounded mostly by your people so you can benefit from all the positive effects and you are not sure how to make this a reality?
We are here to support you to achieve that!
